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2 1/2 yr. adopted female afraid

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Arcee
1 1/2 weeks ago we adopted our Great Dane from a local rescue. She has been diagnosed with Dermodex and Podorermatitis. We are following vets recommendation and treating her with antibiotics and Ivermectin. She is just the sweetest dog. She seems to have a problem with males (of the human breed)she has connected with me, and already is very attached to me and it is mutual, but with my fiance it is as though she is just tolerating him and is almost afraid of him, very ski-dish and jumpy, not nearly as loving and attentive. This is hard for him he really loves her and hasn't been working this week and has been the one to spend the most time with her, it is just breaking his heart. He is very good with her loves her talks to her kindly, has never done anything remotely aggressive with her. Yesterday while I was away at work she wouldn't eat or take treats from him, and basically ignored him. Any help here? I know she is still adjusting, please tell me this is not how she will always be?

Answer
Terri,

First of all, thank you for rescuing! Now to answer your question,  I cannot tell you with 100% certainty that she will not always be nervous around your fiance. However, dogs who are fearful or one thing or another need time to cope and adjust to the new situation. What I would recommend is that he does not force her to come to him, the best way for her to learn to trust him, is to allow her the time to adjust to the environment and she will learn to trust him on her own. Mostly it is just time, but is also depends on what happened to her in the past, which is something that you may not necessarily know. Some dogs take a long time and a lot of work before they can trust a certain person be it a man, women or child. When they have been physically or verbally abused by that "other person" obviously not your fiance, but another man in the past, she has that fear and time heals most wounds. Don't let your fiance be discouraged, but like I said you have only had her for a week and a half, that most dogs that are re-homed take anywhere from 2-6 months to fully adjust and open up in their new surroundings. I have taken in quite a few rescues myself and I can say this with full experience that it does get better. We recently rescued a female Dogue de Bordeaux(French Mastiff) she was very weary around men, but within about 3 weeks of being here, she ran to the door with all the other dogs to greet my husband from work. It takes patience, but in the end, as long as you have that, the dog will come around on their own.

Hope this helps, and let us know how it goes!