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How can I make my poodle be my daughters dog?

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Question
 I am an only parent and my 14 year old daughter is an only child.  We have a 3 year old un-neutered male miniature poodle who was purchased from a breeder when he was 6 weeks old.  I wanted him to be a companion to my daughter, but he doesn't seem to know that.  Instead, he follows me around the house, stays near me wherever I sit, and ignores my daughter.  He does the same thing to anyone else who visits, even my mother who doesn't like animals, and constantly shoos him away from her.  He'll go just far enough away and then ease himself back up to you.  If my daughter calls him or I tell him to go upstairs to her room, he'll go, but he won't stay.                                             
Conversely, when we come home he'll run past me to jump all over my daughter while she makes a big fuss over him.  And he's protective of her.  He growls at me if I approach her and barks when he sees me hugging her.  
She absolutely loves him.  She plays with him, and has taught him several tricks.  I let her feed him, give him treats, take him outside, and do all the things I think will make her a hero in his eyes (such as letting him out of his kennel after I've had to send him there for discipline). And I don't give him very much interaction myself.  But after all that it's still hard to get him to stay with her.  
Is this an alpha dog or dominance/submissive type problem?  I really want my daughter to feel that he's her dog and that she has his unconditional love.  What suggestions do you have?  

Answer
Hello,

Well, you're part way there as poodles are more "people" (at least in their minds) than dogs.  This may be something that will work itself out in time.  Does your daughter feel he isn't 'her' dog?  Males (when un-neutered) are a bit more cantankerous in my opinion than neutered males.  If you have no intention of breeding him, I'd truly suggest getting him neutered ASAP.  

The best thing you can do is what you ARE doing.  The only thing I might make sure of is that your daughter is the only one giving him treats and feeding him.  The one who controls the food is usually a sure thing.  Another thing you might want to do is ensure your daughter is the one holding the leash when you take him for walks and such.  

Poodles are a darned smart breed - and know who is in control of their welfare (food, walks, treats).  

Also, I'm not sure how long you've had him.  Sometimes it takes awhile depending on if he was socialized by his breeder or in a crate for his first 6-8 weeks.  

I hope these suggestions help!