Cat Behavior: PLEASE HELP

Question
Dear Ms. Craft,
Please help. I am at my wits end. My cat is so defiant. It is starting to feel like a power struggle between us. I have been trying to teach him not to jump on the kitchen counters, the dining room table and dresser tops. I've tried everything: stern "no's" and taking him off, shouting and pushing him off, putting him in time out for 10 to 30 minutes (laundry room), squirting him with water guns, using Scat spray deterrents (these work until they run out of air, or we get comfortable and stop using them). He is so defiant that when I take him off and scold him, he jumps back up in the VERY SAME SPOT. When I let him out of time out, he comes back to the kitchen and immediately jumps up in the VERY SAME SPOT. No punishment matters to him. He comes right back and does it again. What he has: another same aged kitten to play with, a glut of toys, a cat tree, play time every day with me and my fiance, a spacious 14-room house with huge windows that look into meadows and forest, two cushy cat beds, high quality food (wet and dry) and water every day, all proper health care, two people who love him and stroke and cuddle him every day. My ability to tolerate this defiance is growing less each day. The other kitten is like an angel. We got them from the humane society on the same day and he has never ONE time jumped on any counter top, and if he does something wrong, just a firm "no" is enough and he never does it again. The bad cat is upsetting the entire household and causing friction between my fiance and me. I really need help. We don't want to give him away. We want to teach him. Please please please help us.  Thank you, Mary

Answer
Hi Mary,

Sorry this took so long. I have a very sick cat here and haven't had much time for the computer. I have one like that and I have found that this works.
http://www.radiofence.com/dog-fences/innotek-indoor-wireless-dog-fence.htm#Revie...

It says it is for a dog but I have used it on training my stubborn non learner. Or they have this item.
http://www.radiofence.com/cat-fences/pawz-away-cat-scat-mat.htm

Try one of these. They work. Good luck.

Ciao, Karen