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Closure on my poodle`s death

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QUESTION: Good day.The loved one was a maltese-poodle dog, which i treated as my son because i do not have any kids of my own. I raised him from being a puppy for two Glorious and Wonderful years, and the parental owner love bond connection was solid, as this dog followed me everywhere i went. The dog was struck on impact by a car on thursday morning, around the corner from us, the owner of the property he ended upon took the liberty of buring him at a nearby site, because he didnt have a collar on him at that time. After searching for the dog for three days, I identified him last night by digging up the site and recognising that it was my dog. I then moved him to my house to be buried.The agony and pain is unbearable at times. Is there any advise or message that you can provide for me during this time of suffering. Will appreciate it.

ANSWER: I think finding him and reburying him would be a big help.  At least you know for sure what happened, and have his body at your house.  I too have known the pain of of a dog getting killed.  I think the physical labor of digging the hole helps.  It takes a long time for the hurt to lesson.  It is always there, but no longer a fresh, raw wound.  



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QUESTION: Thank you, yes i feel better that he is in a yonder spiritual world than being in the hands of a cruel person, Ive loved that dog so dearly and should have taken better precaution. If i could turn the clock back i would definately do so. I do somehow manage to cope with the loss, however that emptiness feeling comes back quite often. How do i deal with the emptiness?

Answer
Watch the Lion King.  After my dog got loose and got killed, I was beating up on myself.  Bad things happen even to competent, well motivated people.  We all make mistakes.  Near the end of the Lion King, the wise old ape is counseling Simba about his father's death.  It helped me a lot.