food & pee

Question
I have a 10 month old Jack Russell Terrier and her name is Mitzy.
I have noticed that Mitzy is way too emotional.  She doesn't like eating alone, I have to sit with her so that she can eat her food; If I don't, she won't eat (and trust me, I've tried many times doing this, but she will just starve). I have put food in her cage, even treats! and she scoots them out the cage or covers the food with her blanket and when I get home and take her out of the cage the first thing she does is look for the treats and the food she pushed away to the floor because she is starving! She cannot continue like this, I want her to be able to eat by herself because I don't want to be out one full day and having her not eating anything (which has happened).  

Another problem that I am having is that every time some one comes in to my house, she pees & pees & pees. I cannot touch her or say hi to her when I get home because if I do, she PEES!  If someone else wants to pet her, she pees herself, and this happens allll the time because she is so darn cute that everybody wants to pet her. And I feel sorry everytime I have visitors come to my house because I have to put her away, if I don't put her away she will pee on the visitors because she gets sooo excited.  I have tried to show her not to pee when I say hi and I yell "no" to her but what I'm doing is scaring her away, I feel she is getting more distanced from me because of that.  And I don't want that. I know I spoil her to death, but I need a solution for this 2 problems because this is affecting her more than it is affecting me.  

Answer
Dogs are social animals.  Any time after 6 months, you can cut back to one meal a day, or 2 if you feel better.  Thus, she can have you around when she eats.  

The peeing is fairly common and is called submissive urination.  You need to be less dominate and build her confidence.  It is one more problem reduced by good obedience training.  A good obedience book is about you being top dog, not about rewarding standard commands with a treat. Start at http://www.dogsbestfriend.com/  Use a positive approach with lots of praise.  When you praise her for doing what you want, she will feel much better.  In general, avoid towering over her and looking her in the eye.  Keep your voice soft.  

Play tug of war with her, and lose.  Just take the toy at the end of the game. Before starting the game or other stressful events like guests, take her out and let her eliminate.  I found that worked very well with my one dog that had more of an excitement than submission problem.  

Have you talked with the vet about this?  Likely there isn't any physical problem, but if there is, no amount of training will fix it.