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How do I stop feeling guilty not giving enough attention?

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Question
I own two yorkies and am dogsitting one toy poodle for my sister for a few
months. They are all wonderful affectionate and loving dogs. I take them out
in the morning and evenings for walks. But it doesn't seem to be enough
because they are constantly looking for my attention and affection when we
are at home, and I can't seem to get any work done without feeling bad about
it.  I am constantly feeling guilty like I am negelecting them. I have some time
off right now from work and I love hanging out with them and I enjoy going
out for long walks with them, but if they are like this now, what will they be
like when I start work next month and I am gone for long hours from them? I
love them to death but the whole reason I got another yorkie was to keep the
first one company, so they could play together. They do play but it's not as
much as I would like. Now I have three dogs pawing at me or  making
whimpering sounds to gain my attention. What am I doing wrong? How can I
make them feel fulfilled and happy without my constant attention? Am I
spoiling them too much? I want to stop feeling bad about leaving them, and I
want to stop feeling bad when I am working at the desk for several hours in a
day. Please help.

Answer
You are normal LOL.  But, you are also giving in.  Try thinking of the pawing and whining as though they were bratty two year olds constantly tugging at your shirt:-))  Then you won't feel so guilty not responding to their every whim.  It's healthier for them if you spend some time training them individually, too.  Have some fun and do some of the lessons at www.clickertraining.com.  Training is good mental exercise, and together with the physical exercise that they get from walks, and from playing, should tire them out a bit more.  When you don't want to interact with them, do what another dog would do.  Simply turn your head away and ignore them.  It isn't heartless, it's just telling them, in their own language "Not right now."  Too much attention on demand CAN spoil a dog, but the right kind of attention (initiated and terminated by the human) can make your dogs respect you as their benevolent leader.