Difficulty with new dog

Question
Hi I have a new puppy, he has been with us about 2 weeks. I love him, he has a good disposition. But the problem is he is very stubborn. He is loving and affectionate and playful but he wants to be boss. He is 5 months old, has not been neutered yet as I am waiting a month still and he is a male. He was constantly peeing and pooping in the house and I believe I did things correctly. When I catch him in the act I take him outside and say "Do it outside". But there was so much poo and pee inside I had to keep him on a leash inside with either myself or my husband. We chose a spot in the garden and left samples of his pee on newspaper there and yesterday we had a breakthrough and he peed outside. We praised him with treats and lots of affection and took him off the leash and played with him outside for about 10 minutes.And about two minutes after we came back in I went to the kitchen for a minute to get a drink and when I came back into the adjacent living room there was poo in 2 different places.

The main problems are he does not poo after he eats not for hours. I have kept track and the times are all different, not even approximately close.

Also, when he pood everywhere I put him back on the leash but then he peed outside an hour later so I wanted to reward him by taking his leash off. That was 5 hours ago and he has been with me every second since because I'm afraid to turn my back for even a nano second as he could poo.

There have been times when we tried every ten minute to take him out for 5 hours and he wouldn't go outside until we had to leave him alone for a minute because I had an appointment and my husband had to run upstairs and sure enough he took that time to poo.  

The fact that he can hold it that long and waits for us to not see makes me think he is aware it's not what we want.

I have tried crate training him too but he wouldn't take any treats in there at all or food. He just cried in there. So I did what I read was called the earthquake and lifted the corner of his crate when he made whining or barking or scratching sounds and have worked my way up to 15 minutes. But he is very upset afterwards. I don't like to do that often. He seems to hate it. I tried all the making it nice things like leaving snacks and treats in there, trying to feed him daily from there. He would eat if the bowl was at the edge of the crate but not near the back.But he would not go in.

He is stubborn about walking too. Will sometimes do it fine but other days decide he doesn't want to walk and won't budge unless you drag him which of course I can't do.

I had a dog years ago and had none of these problems. He was so easy to train as opposed to this one. He is lovely but seems quietly stubborn and I have a child with autism spectrum disorder that needs my constant attention too. The dog has been great for him and that was a reason we wanted to get one. It has helped him get outside and the petting and being with the dog has been good for his sensory issues but this means the intense attention I'm giving snowflake is tough on both my son and me.

I don't mind having the dog with us all the time, it's needing to not take my eyes off of him that is next to impossible.

Please, any suggestions would be soooo appreciated. We don't have the budget at this moment for doggy training classes as we just got him and had to pay for vet bills (he had an eye infection and parasites) and now we are saving for his neutering. I have to stay at home with my son and pay for private school and lots of treatments. We are pinching pennies.

Cheers

Answer
Much of what you are doing is right.  The praise and treats yesterday were exactly the correct thing. The more he moves around outside the better to stimulate his body and induce relieving himself.  To get hem moving, try running past him in baby steps while calling ''Go, go, go!'' in a happy, excited voice.  

Some dogs are just more difficult than others.  We have had a long string of puppies that were quite easy.  Now we are struggling with the worst one about settling down when we have her out somewhere.  So your puppy may take more work than many.  While I strongly believe in crating a puppy when you can't watch it, watching it like you have been is better for getting it housebroke.  You might try short periods of crating after an unproductive trip outside.  

Getting him neutered when you can should help too, perhaps more keeping him from getting worse.  It is no cure all, and takes a little while before you see much difference.  I am glad you plan to, it is the responsible thing for most pet owners.  

Keep working with him.  Find a book, perhaps at the library and start obedience.  Here is a list put together by the professionals at a dog guide school for those caring for their dogs.

The Cultural Clash by Jean Donaldson, 1996

Excel-crated Learning by Pamela Reid, 1996

Don't Shoot the Dog, by Karen Pryor, 1996

Surviving Your Dog's Adolescence, by Carol Lea Benjamin, 1993

Second Hand dog, by Carol Lea Benjamin, 1988

Dog Problems, by Carol Lea Benjamin, 1989

Super Puppy, by Peter J. Vollmer, 1988

HELP, Mt dog Has an Attitude, by Gwen Bohnenkamp, 1994

Owners' Guide Better Behavior in Dogs and Cats, by William Campbell, 1989

What All Good dogs Should Know, By Wendy Vollmer, 1991

How to Raise a Dog When Nobody is Home, Jerry Kilmer, 1991

Through Otis' Eyes-Lessons from a Guide Dog Puppy, by Patricia Berlin Kennedy and Robert Christie, 1998

Puppy Primer, by Brenda K Skidmore and Patricia B. McConnell, Ph.D., 1996

Beginning Family Dog Training, by Patricia B. McConnell, Ph.D., 1996

Planet of the Blind-A Memoir, by Steven Kuusisto, 1998

The Other end of the Leash, by Patricia B. McConnell, Ph.D.

The key to most behavior problems is approaching things using the dog's natural instincts.  Dogs see all the people and dogs in the household as a pack with each having their own rank in the pack and a top dog.  Life is much easier if the 2 legged pack members outrank the 4 legged ones.  You can learn to play the role of top dog by reading some books or going to a good obedience class. A good obedience class or book is about you being top dog, not about rewarding standard commands with a treat. Start at http://www.dogsbestfriend.com/  For more on being top dog, see http://www.dogbreedinfo.com./topdogrules.htm  That site has some additional material on dogs and children.  Let me know how my suggestions work, and get back with me.  I will try to work with you.