Teaching a young thoroughbred to accept being ridden

Question
I have a 3 year old thoroughbred mare who does not accept being ridden. The first trainer gave up when we reached the part of the training where the horse had had enough ground work to be started under saddle. I found a second trainer who has many clients who actually rode my mare twice. My mare was put on Regumate for six weeks before the first ride was attempted. My mare rears then kicks out backwards when someone gets in the saddle. The mare constantly looks for a new surprise to unseat the rider. The trainer says there is nothing more she can do for my mare and I appear to be out of options. The trainer recommends I sell my mare to a male rider who will basically overpower her.  I have owned my mare for two years and have found her to be spooky and sensitive, but I am able to walk her around the barn, lunge her, and saddle her. The Regumate has helped, but she refuses to keep a rider in the saddle.

I have this feeling that if I sell her (assuming anyone would buy her) that she will change hands constantly until someone finally decides to slaughter her.  I am thinking that I should keep my mare and just continue to work with her on ground work (lunge line, saddling, etc.) and wait until she is 4-5 years old and then start again with a new trainer.

Is there really such a horse as a truly unbreakable horse? My trainer seems to feel that only the toughest, most experienced male rider will ever have any success with this horse. Am I unreasonable to wait and try later?


Answer
In my opinion no there is no such thing as an unbreakable horse but that does not mean this mare will ever be what you want her to be, she will probably always need to be in full hard work and will take up alot of your time. Is there something really special about this horse that makes you want to keep her? I have a horse here that is pretty much the same, I own't sell him because I don't know where he will end up and would hate for him to really hurt someone, he is a true mongrel that has been broken in for over four years and is still my toughest ride of the day, I have decided that when the time comes I will not be rehoming him but will have him put to sleep. I know that seems very harsh but I do believe there are worse things in life than death. I would never send a horse to the meatworks as all the trauma they go through is just barbaric but would send to the hunt clubs to feed the hounds as they are then just put down in a paddock happily eating. Im sorry but I don't think leaving her for a few more years will help her, if she is a lovely type perhaps she could be a nice broodmare to put with a paint or something but if you do this make sure she only goes to a stallion that has a lovely temprement and who passes this onto his foals. Hope I have been of some help. Karen