In need of advice about my cats...

Question
Hello Barb,

I would love your advice on my situation:

In 1999, my girlfriend and I got four cats - all from the same litter.  We kept 2 (Teddy and Fiona) and gave the other 2 to my girlfriend's parents.   My girlfriend and I were planning to move to Washington DC together (for a new job for her and grad school for me), but things did not work out - we broke up.  My girlfriend's parents agreed to keep our two cats (as well as the two we have them - Ali and Raj) and promised them to me when I was ready for them.

I graduated in 2002 but have lived with roommates ever since and have felt that the cats have the best life on Cape Cod - where they have a big house and yard.  I live in Boston and visit them about once a month.

I am actually pretty close with my ex girlfriend's parents, who say I can have one of the cat's (Teddy - my favorite) when I am ready.  I also want to take his sister, Fiona, as they are very close.  I think it would be a mistake to take just Teddy, although I think my ex's parents are concerned that I will not give Fiona enough attention.  Although I have tended to favor Teddy and it is true that I give him the most attention (he commands it!), I would also be devoted to Fiona.  Here are my concerns/questions:

Should I take Teddy and Fiona when I am able to provide a good living situation for them?  I love them both immensely - in fact, I feel so connected to them that I would have tremendous regrets if I did not take them at some point.  On the other hand, I worry about disrupting their lives.  I feel that they are connected to me as well, but I'm just not sure what to do?  If I do take them, as I plan, do you have any ideas on how I can make the transition easiest for them?  Also, it may be tough to convince my ex's parents to let me take Fiona.  I feel it would be most detriminental to take Ted away from his litter mate.  Do you agree/disagree?

I would be most grateful for your thoughts on the issues I've raised.

Thanks,

Jeremy

Answer
Hi Jeremy,

The cats will thrive whereever they live if they get food, attention and affection.  I would not take Teddy away from his litter mate.  I would take them both.  They tend to do better and be healthier if there are two of them.  I know you will love them both and Fiona will not be lacking for love.  When you are able, take them both and they will be just fine with all the love you have for them.  Good luck and let me know if I can be of further help.  Hugs, Barb