peeing when touched

Question
I rescued a male Maltese. I love him! But Ok I cant touch him! When I try to pet him or discipline. I mean telling him get down off the bed nicely, then get more firm.. walk over there but know he will pee on my bed and does. But the weird thing is, he is lick himself while he is peeing. I try to pet him or pick him up he pees. I got him from the shelter, and the first month he was sick and never once peed now he is healthy and training starts and seriously I feel at a loss. I want to keep him but he is not responding to me in a way that is loving I literally want to ignore him because I don't want him to pee! SAD What do I do?

Answer
I do all I can to encourage adoption and make extra efforts to help in cases like this.  If this doesn't help, post back.  

Many dogs eventually outgrow it, but you can reduce it by building the dog's confidence up.  Start with obedience training.  The key to most behavior problems is approaching things using the dog's natural instincts.  Dogs see all the people and dogs in the household as a pack with each having their own rank in the pack and a top dog.  Life is much easier if the 2 legged pack members outrank the 4 legged ones.  You can learn to play the role of top dog by reading some books or going to a good obedience class. A good obedience class or book is about you being top dog, not about rewarding standard commands with a treat. Start at http://www.dogsbestfriend.com/  As you praise the dog for following your commands, it will build its confidence.  

Play tug of war with the dog and lose.  However at the end of the game, take the rope or toy and put it up, less the dog becomes confused about who is top dog.  Ropes from the pets' store quickly turn to hazardous shreds.   Ones I made  lasted much better.   Go to a hardware or home center that sells rope by the foot.  Buy 2' of 3/4" poly rope. Melt the ends, and tie  knots in it.   Get them as tight as possible, put it in a vise and pound it with a hammer.  Watch carefully, and be ready to discard when it comes apart.

Finally, make sure it has a den to live in.  If you are not using a crate, buy one.  The dog may be happier in its den than loose in the house.  It relaxes, it feels safe in its den.  It rests, the body slows down reducing the need for water and relieving its self.  Dogs that have been crated all along do very well.  Many of them will rest in their crates even when the door is open.  I think the plastic ones give the dog more of a safe, enclosed den feeling.  Metal ones can be put in a corner or covered with something the dog can't pull in and chew.  Select a crate just big enough for the full grown dog to stretch out in.