Itroducing a kitten to my 2.5 yrs old Siamese

Question
Hello

i have a 2.5 yrs old female blue point Siamese which is very shy. whenever friends or family come to visit she will go and hide. if the person has a deep loud voice she gets scared, if the person has a soft voice it makes things easier and she eventually will come out of hidding but will keep her distance until she sense their is no danger and even then she might keep her distance. This past sunday we got a 2 months old wedge head male Siamese on trial... We got home around 9:00pm and i had the kitten in my jacquet and went straight to the spare bedroom so my cat didn't see him. but as soon as she heard him miow she realized there was a stranger in the house and she went in the basement. i was able to go and get her and she didn't try to hide but she wasn't comfortable coming upstairs. she always sleeps with us but sunday night she stayed in the basement. the kitten is in the spare bedroom opposite to our bedroom. my cat would occasionally look at the end of the hallway where the kitten is but never went at the door. yesterday morning i went and got my cat in the basement and she came upstairs with me and was acting almost normal but once in a while peeked at the end of the hallway. she was playfull but ate a little less than normal. yesterday afternoon we took the kitten's blanquet and a toy so my cat could smell it. she smelled a little bit but didn't do much, no hissing nothing. around 5:00pm we took the kitten out but kept him in the carrier and brought him in the living room, my cat stayed away, looked at him but was acting the same as when a friend comes home. she didn't go near the carrier, when we brought the carrier a little closer to her she moved back and eventually went in the basement, again no hissing nothing just scared and shy. in the evening she was acting ok but again slept on her own in the house.At 3:00am this morning i went and got her but she didn't stay with us. when i take a bath she usually is always there with me, sunday she was too scared to come in the bathroom because it is halfway in the hall by the guest room where the kitten is but last night she came in the bathroom. This morning when i woke up to go to work she came to see me in the bathroom just like usual, she even went down the hall by the guest room where the kitten is. she didn't stay there more then 30 seconds but she went. she acted normal with me. i left to go to work and she went for the 1st time in bed to sleep with my partner who doesn't work. later this morning my partner took the kitten out in the carrier and put him in the living room and took our cat in the guest room where the kitten is staying and stayed with her and closed the door. our cat was so scared, shewas looking in the bed and my partner showed her there was no one in the room, she hissed once and then jumped on the door knob trying to open the door so my partner immediately opened the door so she would be able to leave the room, she could hear the kitten miow in the living room but couldn't see him. our cat went in the basement and my partner put the kitten back in the bedroom. our cat is very spoiled, dominant and like things her way, she is a miss Queennie!! she likes to be pet, likes to sleep on our lap all evening long but when she wants to be sleeping on a chair on her own and you go to pick her up if she wants to be left alone she will let you know. Our breeder made sure the kitten would be easy going not dominant and not bully. he is adorable,we got hooked on him the minute we took him home, we want so much for both of them to get long but we don't want either one of them to be miserable. our cat is one that when she feels their is no danger with a stranger (like my sister who comes often) she will cuddle and get close to her and won't mind being pet but it takes a while. from what i just explained do you think that there is hope for both cats to eventually get along. keep in mind it will only be 48hrs since they met tonight at 9:00pm. we have a lot of patience but we still want whats best for both of them. any steps you recommend we should take would be greatly appreciated!  thanks.  

Answer
Francine,

It sounds like things are progressing well. It takes a lot of patience and it takes time for things to smooth out. Usually you need to give it about 2 weeks.

Here is are a couple of excellet articles about getting cats to adjust to each other:

http://www.messybeast.com/first-impressions.htm
and
http://www.littlebigcat.com/index.php?action=library&act=show&item=cattocatintro...


I hope these help.
Tabbi