Neutred female with 6 moth non-neut male

Question
Our female cat love our other white male, both were in heat when we got them. He died a year ago, and now we finally find another. She hated him even as a kitten and would hiss at him. He, meanwhile tried to be cute with her and roll over being submissing, she wants nothing to do with him. How can we keep them in the same room. Even after being neutured will they be friends? I find it odd that she has made friends with another outside cat that isn't neutered.

Answer

dog crate for cats H,

Cats choose their friends just like people do. You can force a cat to be friends especially if you just put them together. You need to go through an introduction process correctly and slowly. It may take 2 weeks to a month or more for them to get along.

I am attaching a couple of links on how to go about the introduction process: (copy and paste, or type the whole links into your address bar)

http://www.messybeast.com/first-impressions.htm

http://www.littlebigcat.com/index.php?action=library&act=show&item=cattocatintro...

I use a big dog crate for a new cat. I got mine at Petco and I am attaching a picture of it. It has room for litterbox, food and water, small cat carrier without the door for a bed and to get up on, and they still have room. That way they can get used to another cat around, and the other cat can sniff and check them out safely. You can gradually let the cat out for short periods of time as they start getting used to each other. You can switch and let the new cat out to investigate the home safely while the resident cat is in the crate getting used to the new cat's smells.

Once they can be together without fighting feed both cats yummy cat treats (like tuna or pieces of raw steak) TOGETHER. That is so the cats will associate each other with something pleasant.

Also getting a pet laser light (at PetSmart, etc.) is great for interaction between the two cats. They both can chase the 'little red bug' on the floor, ceilings, and walls, and they tend to forget about the other cat as they focus on the 'bug' which helps them get used to each other.

It just takes time and lots of patience. It will work out if you take it slow and don't force them together until they are ready.
AND make sure they are all spayed and neutered! That makes a big difference in their behavior!

Tabbi