Male siamese behaviour problem

Question
Recently adopted a one year old male siamese named Alfie, into a household of three female moggies of the same age. He is neuteuted. The problem we have with him is that he is constantly hassling and tormenting the other three, basically bullying them. He is the most dominant and his agression towards them is getting worse, although this does mainly seem playful they don't want to play and are intollerant of him and he seems to suffer from jealously spells mainly towards the most people friendly of the three. We don't know where to turn and wonder about introducing another cat/kitten but unsure of age/sex/bred and don't want to make the situation worse. Another concern is we are due to go away in January and we are considering putting him in a cattery by himself or leave all four together as usual being fed by a family member. Can you advise.

Answer
Darren,

I have two rules when it comes to how cats interact with each other: (1) No human interference and (2) Humans do not understand how cats inter-relate.  We have a tendency to ascribe human feelings and emotions to how the cats behave.  This is very counter productive as their whole outlook on things are very different than ours.

My advice is to leave things alone and let them inter-relate how ever they choose to.  What we may see as torment, they me see as rough play.  If you ever watched little kittens play with each other and their mama, you would be surprised at how roughly they play.  The cats are really not going to hurt each other.  If they play chase and it ends up in a "fight", this is actually a good thing.  The "intolerance" you perceive may be part of their games.  Who knows?

I would do the latter when you leave.  I.e., leave them together and let a family member feed them.  

BTW, one sign of getting along is if everyone is eating normally and everyone is using the litter pan normally.

Best regards... Norm.