biting daschund

Question
QUESTION: hi, i have a 2 year old daschund and lately he is showing an aggresion towards me or anybody who's trying to punish him.
We used to live in a normal house, where i can take him out for a walk and people who live in the old house are me, my husband and my sister in law, a year ago we moved to an apartement in other city to live together with my mother in law.

problems starts in this apartment, actually this apartment has rules that we cant keep a pet but since we love our daschund so much, we get him in secretly.
since we move in this new apartment, my daschund who used to follwowed me everywhere started to follow my mother in law (cause she use to give him snacks and do everything he wants), then everytime he pooped in the wrong place he started to growl if i want to discipline him (not hitting, just show him the poop and tell him not to poop there again). The dog now sleep with my mother in law in her room, but she got asma so the daschund must sleep with me. But the dog just wont follow me, he used to get under my mother in law bed and started to bark everytime i try to get him out of there. i have try the good way and the bad way (forcing him out with pulling him against his will).

and today, the dog just bite me, because i want to pull him out. i didnt show aggresion when puling him, i even use a nice tone, my heart just break, how come a dog that i love so much bite me?

can you help me?
thank u so much for answeering

ANSWER: He does not recognize what you are doing as a learning process to him you are simply attacking him.  If all your contact with the dog is unpleasant then he will want to avoid you.  Because of his age, he's just now maturing to adult, he will begin asserting himself and in this defending himself in what he sees as an attack.  Your process when he poops somewhere teaches him absolutely nothing except to resent you.  He does not understand you are punishing him for pooping.  So quit this process.  You need to teach him where he can poop by use of a crate (see my other posts)rather than punishing him way after the fact.  you need to begin taking him on walks and being his leader.  Your mother in law is new to him and this is her environment and he senses that.  It sounds to me as though you have never established yourself as its trusted leader.  To deal with the issue of him biting when you make him physically do what he does not want to do I would suggest you put some gloves on that will protect you from his bite.  Then go through a process of teaching him to accept this handling through consistent short repetitions.  Do not spend a lot of time talking to the dog instead when your physical force accomplishes what you want reward with firm praise(not baby talk)and firm confidence building, patting and rubbing.  Repeat this process several times in a session.  This can be seen in my ONE, TWO, GOOD DOG! protocol.  Pulling the dog out from under the bed(ONE), the dog coming out (TWO), praise and reward (GOOD DOG).  It is important that the praise/reward be immediate and it should begin vocally as you are removing the dog from under the bed.  You can apply this protocol to any situation that will bring about aggressive tendencies in the dog.  If the dog bites (you should have the gloves on)do not make a reaction to this by jerking or pulling away instead assert yourself with a loud deep sound such as AAAAAAAAH. This should cause him to focus on you and cease the aggressiveness, at least long enough to reward him for stopping or not showing the aggression.   You should look for ways to create his aggression so that you can use the protocol to teach him it is unacceptable.  If you wait until if happens naturally you will not get enough controlled reps for it to understand what you are asking.  So explore and find things that will elicit the response from the dog so you can get the reps you need.
By use of this standard learning theory and getting the necessary reps for the dog to understand you will environmentally socialize the dog to deal with these types of things without going instinctual but instead deal with it as he has been taught.  These types of activities and learning sessions will also build a very strong bond between you and the dog.
The dog follows your mother in law because she provides food to it which is viewed by the dog as a leadership function.  Although a somewhat weak one it may be the only leadership the dog experiences.

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QUESTION: actually, when i first arrived in my mother in law apartment, at first i am the one who prepare the food for the dog everyday, then one day my mother in law step in and prepare the food for the dog herself.

do i have to ask her to stop this behaviour? i dont want to be impolite to her, i am so confused.

and i cant take the dog to take a walk ( which i used to do in my old house) because if a neighbour sees the dog they will report to security, we dont want that to happen.

also, now the dog is forced to sleep in my bedroom, since my mother in law got asthma, but the dog seem dont like it. and everytime the dog sleeps on the floor, my mother in law will get mad at me beacuse i didnt let the dog sleep on my bed.

i want to know your opinion, what if i let my mother in law just take care of the dog, since the dog wont listen to me anymore. but her way of taking care of the dog is very risky, she tends to give him chocolates, steak, fried food, which i know is bad for the dog itself.
i cant tell her to stop doing this, cause once again it will be impolite if i do that.

and the dog experience with me is not very good, like i'm the one who give him shower, and cut his nails (which he hates so much) my mother in law wont do it by herself, cause she just dont want to do it.

thank u for answering me

Answer
Honestly you have a bigger problem with your mother-in-law than you do the dog.  There is no reason that the dog can't honor and respect both of you.  It is only natural for the dog to want to sleep in the bed with someone if you let it but "YOU" decide where the dog sleeps and what the dog is allowed to do.  You need to set up rules with your mother-in-law that you both can live with as far as handling the dog.  If she is feeding the dog things that are unhealthy for it then you need to speak up for the dogs sake.  If you are going to feed the dog table scraps and snacks you need to figure them into the dogs diet and cut back on other food so the dog does not become obese.  Obesity is the number one health problem with dogs and it is the easiest to prevent since we determine what the dog eats.  As far as being impolite how polite will it be when you have to determine who disposes of the dogs body when it dies from being fed to much or being fed something like chocolate.  My first suggestion is to move to an apartment that allows the dog or give it to someone who can see that it gets exercise and time outside in the fresh air.  If you insist on keeping it for your own satisfaction then you need to set up a routine of exercise for the dog.  I would suggest maybe basic obedience training which can be done inside the house and also some play period with just "you".  You are the one that determines how and when you interact with the dog so do not make excuse simply do what is necessary.  I can assure you that the dog will accept anything you ask of it as long as there is a balance between play and work.  Here are some simple steps to follow to establish your position of leadership over the dog.
1.  Have a routine of making sure the dog does things you want it to everyday to demonstrate your leadership.
2.  Spend time with the dog just being still or scratching its ears or belly.
3.  When feeding the dog always do this away from where you eat and if possible feed the dog after you have eaten.  You can further establish the hierarchy by letting the dog watch you eat before you feed it.  Do not feed it scraps from your plate while you eat but let it sit there and watch or even beg.  This will help it to realize the "pack order" of the house.
4.  Demand obedience from the dog. For example do not allow the dog to just come over and jump up on your lap.  Make it wait until you ask it to.
5.  The dog lives by your rules not there own.

As far as walks with the dog, have you considered getting a "dog purse"?  This is a shoulder bag that you put the dog into that would allow you to exit and enter your apartment undetected with the dog.