Replacing cats

Question
Hello,
I am sorry to bother you now, but I had a terrible loss today...
I had 2 male castrated cats -> one siamese with CRF who I put to sleep today as he was suffering for almost 2 years (he was 16), and an American Short hair who is 5. They were not like "brothers" and kept a distance from each other. However, I'm afraid he won't like to be alone. I live in an apartment and see him only at night.
Do you think I should get a new kitten to keep my 5 years old cat happy?
Thanks so much for your advice.

Andre'

Answer
Hi Andre,

I am very sorry to hear about your loss.  I definitely would not recommend getting another pet so soon.  You need time to grieve and accept the loss, as I'm sure your cat does as well.  I would definitely give it at least a few weeks, probably a few months to be honest.  You will know when you are ready to open your heart and home again.

When and if you do decide that you are ready to adopt and commit to another 16 wonderful years, I would ask that you would consider adopting an adult.  There are so many wonderful adult cats in shelters usually surrendered due to irresponsible owners that could potentially be a good match for your home.  Remember, the key here is to find a suitable personality.  Gender makes no difference as both will be altered.  Therefore, if your cat is dominant, you will want to make sure to look for an intermediate, calm cat.  Two dominant cats will be battling to be top cat, as well as an introverted submissive cat will be stressed and anxious living with a dominant feline.  Many adult cats in shelters have foster parents who are ready, able, and willing to tell you about their foster's personality, if they have lived with other cats, and how they get along.  But remember, introductions should always be slow and gradual.  Never introduce a new pet the first week you bring them home; they should have their own room and plenty of time to adjust and bond with you before having full roam of the house and meeting resident pets.

For more details, please see my other responses.  When the time comes, if you decide you'd like a kitten, please email me so I can send you detailed instructions on how to start your kitten off right.  I wish you the best of luck, and hope that you remember all of the good times your beloved friend gave you.  

Best regards,