3 year old adopted Yorkie Bites my husband

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Charlotte,

Thank you.. Guess you spanked me a bit as well.. Since all of what you say makes a ton of sense... Probably laziness on our parts considering.. when we are laying in bed it is because we are tired and ready to sleep.. Who wants to get up and go through all of that at 11 pm etc... But it makes sense.... and we will try it.
He is a nice boy otherwise.. barks when the doorbell rings.. Barks at strangers.. etc... all of the makings of a good Watch dog... and family pet.  
Hubby and I are trying this all tonight.. Except the thing that makes me nervous is that Rusty is viscous at these moments.. and I am afraid he may hurt hubby and hubby in turn may hurt him back.  But tonight we will try it and yes, i have locked him in the bathroom before and this is not making him happy at all... This hopefully will be the trick... we will not give up on him yet...
Thanks so much.
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Hopefully you can help me.  We adapted a 3 year old Yorkie male.  Although at first he seemed to be a well manored young man, as time has gone on his behaviors have gotten worse.  I can handle the occasional garbage messes and the accidental tinkles or poops on my floors.  However, he sleeps in my room constantly and even that is ok.

However, if my husband is not in bed first with me, and tries to come into the bed after i am settled, the dog attacks him viciously.  He recently bit my husband on the chin as he leaned in one morning to kiss me good bye.  Occasionally my 7 year old son sleeps with me and if my husband tries to move him off of the bed or kiss our son, the dog will also attack him.
What do we do?  We have tried crating him at night, but that is no use.  He barks relentlessly.  In a house with all hardwood floors, it can become so loud it is horrible.  We have even tried to lock him in the bedroom with our oldest daughter who is 10.  He simply just wants to be with me at all times.

Any advice on how to get back to a harmonious household?
Thanks.
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Hi Laura;
Yes, take this little delinquent dictator to obedience training class.
It sounds like HE has decided he is going to be the male alpha in the family, and it is time for that other man to move out so HE can take over.
If he were here with me, when he pulls that, I would chew his little butt up one side and down the other, and tyell him he has to go to time out, until he learns to behave.
Time out in my house is a half hour or so in the hall bathroom. No toys, nothing to do by lie on th mat in that small bathroom and contemplate his sins, and decide what is in his own best interests.
Put him off the bed IMMEDIATELKT when he misbehaves, and teach him that YOU and YOUR HUSBAND are the parents, and he is just one of the little kids, and he will do as he is told, or he will go to punishment.
Little Yorkies can develope an attitude very fast, as quite a few of thge smaller breeds can.
I think it is mostly because they are so little and sooooo cute, and we d let them get away with all sorts of things, like cute little kids that are spoiled rotten.
He needs to undrstand he is in that bed at the grace of the mom and dad of the family, and if he is disrspectful, he will lose his privileges.
When he bit your husband on the chin. your husband should have snatched him up, chewed him up one side and down the other and told him he was going to time out, and then put him there.
Just like when you sit a child in the corner, they need to know it is because they are being punished and when they are let out of punishment, it goes along with telling them they are to mind and be a good boy/girl, or they will go right back to time out.
If he learns this behavior will get him put off the bed, and he will not be allowed to do as he pleases, he will do what keeps himself out of trouble.
If you continue to let him get away with this, he will extend the dictatorial behavior to you and the children.
He will not stop until HE is the supreme ruler of the family.
You have to teach him that he is just opne of the peons. NOT royalty at all.
If you are not comfortable with taking control and laying down the law to him ( a lot of people who have not had many dogs sometimes have trouble taking the alpha role)then get into a professionally trained class.
I would advise a group class, where you handle the dog, so he learns who is the alpha. Or maybe your husband should handle him.
Spanking, hitting with a newspaper, all these old fashioned ways people used to train dogs is absolutely NOT the way to go. A good scolding in a stern voice, and in the case of really bad behavior, and good chewing out with nagging, works wonders.
Animals are just like children, they will do what they are allowed to do.
My best friend comes to visit from another state a couple of timea a year, and she brings her little Yorkie.
Mighty Mite is a spoiled brat that is allowed to do as he pleases at home, but he knows if he misbehaves at Aunt Charlotte's, he will get put in time out, just like that other kids do.
I don't use crates.
When we took our Sheltie, Mighty ?Mite decided that new dog was not going to be allowed in his "other" home, so he flew into Laddie for a fight. Laddie was 2 years old then.
It had been ok before, because he got along with my dogs, and he and my Lhasa are best friends, but when he drew bolld from Laddie, Aunt Charlotte grabbed him up, chewed him out and put him in time out.
It took twice having him spend time in there, but he learned, and he hasn't done that since. He plays with Laddie too ever since.
See, by not allowing your husband to take your son out of the bed, he is showing HE is the alpha male.
He needs his little wings clipped, NOW!!!
Has he been neutered?
If not, this should be done as soon as possible.
It will help a little with this aggression behavior, but he is going to need some very structured training.
PetsMart and Petco stores have group obedience classes on weekends, and a well qualified trainer teaches you how to train your own dog.
To get back to a harmonious home, you have to get control of your little shin-kicked kid, Mom.
He is treated like a member of the family, and that is the way it should be, but he has to assume the responsibility of getting alone, just like the other members of the family.
Write anytime you feel I can help.
Charlotte

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Hi Laura;
Well, they are just likt 2 legged kids. Give them an inch, and they will see how much more they can get.
He reminds me of a little dog I came across when I was in Real Estate.
I was showing a house to a lady, and when we opened the patio door, a little scruffy dog ran in.
I figured he wasn't supposed to be inside when thy were gone, so I scooped him up, and carried him around while I was showing her th back yard etc.
All the while I was carrying him, he was leaned back in my arms, looking at me like I was out of my mind.
She liked the house, and when I went back with the contract, I had something to check outside for her. we went out, he ran in again and I scooped him up. the man said "OH, Don't pick him up. He bites".
That explained that look he was giving me. It was "Don't you know I am dangerous, fool?" LOL
Turns out he bites the man all the time. He doesn't know what to do with him, because he doesn't want him to be put down, and he doesn't want to give a vicious dog to someone.
He asked why he wasn't biting me, and I told him he probably knew I might paddle his little butt if he did.LOl
I won't stand for it, and they know it.
They read us very well.
If he had nipped me, I would have held him in such a way he couldn't do it again, and chewed him out royally.
So he didn't bother.
I have raised dogs all my life. My dad was a Veterinarian, and taucht me when I was three how to take care of my own animals, and of course he was always there, but they were my responsibility. I have trained more than I have fingers and toes to count, and am 72 now, and have never had the skin broken from an angry animal.
I bathe cats and don't get scratched, but a few kitties have shredded my hands ultil they learned not to play so aggressively.
I told the client to make the dog mind him. He said "But what do I do when he bits me?"
I said, " First, you tell him that is not going to be allowed anymore, and if he bites you, you will tear his little butt up."
I said, he reads you and knows if you mean it ot not.
So he Told the dog he was not going to take that anymore.,
He said. "Anytime you bite me, I wiill spank your bottom and you will stay outside forever, and not mre treats and stuff. Now you behave!" and picked him up.
That little snewd stared at him with hi lips curled, and he got stared back at, and the man said "Go ahad and bite me, you will find out what is going to happen then."
He just stared that little demon down,and it looked at me as much as to say "Busy body!"
After I sold their house, I sold them another one, and kept in touch for quite awhile. That little dog behaved like he was supposed to from them on, and didn't bite the man anymore.
I don't hit dogs or children to teach them, but when they do something that is a major no no, A whack on the bottom can save a lot of trouble.
Max ( my little Lhasa) had the habit of running out when they front door was opened, and running across the street, and refused to come back. He would sit there until I walked across the street and picked him up and carried him home.
Well, he was grown, and my heart was giving me a lot of trouble, and I was not able to do that anymore, so I walked over, picked him up and carried him back, spanking his bottom and chewing him out all the way home.
He never did it again.
So, if he bites your husband, he should grab him up, hold him under tyhe stomach so he can't bite again, and exposex his little round butt, and spank him, while chewing him out.
The chewing out in a loud and angry voice is what will do it more.
The spanking shouldn't be hard, but the chewing should be loud, so the dog thinks he has been torn up.
Younneed some shock value there. followed with unceremoniouskly dumping him outside, or in the time out room.
It won't take many times of that before he figures out it is in his best interest to be a good boy.
Charlotte