Well, Youre Not Going To Get Her Back That Way

Have you been trying as hard as you can to get your ex back? Have you done just about everything in your power to win her back with no success? You’ve tried talking with her, being nice to her, maybe even buying her presents. You’ve tried apologizing and promised that you would never do any of the things that she complained about when she broke up with you. You even promised to try harder to be more romantic, attentive, caring, thoughtful and considerate while banishing your juvenile behavior including leaving the toilet seat up. Have you even broken down and cried as you told her that you loved her?

Well, after I arrived at your house and smacked you around a little bit, called you the slang term for a kitty-cat (Meow!) and told you that your mother made a mistake in deciding that you were indeed a male of the species I would try to get you to pull yourself together. No, there would be no group hug and no �I love you man�. There would just be some straight talk and a few questions about exactly what you were trying to accomplish.

Can you see what you have been doing? Your actions are not those of a man and definitely not those of a man that wants to get the love of his life back. Yeah, it’s great that you love her so much and the two of you might make a great couple and she might be cool as heck but you need to see that what you have been doing is driving her away. It is not the road to getting her back.

You’ll never get her back by acting like a kitty cat (Meow!). She will only lose respect for you and you are coming off as weak and needy. These are not the actions of a strong man that is going to make her feel safe and secure. Sure, most of us feel this way when our heart gets broken and you can cry in the privacy of your own home if you want and get it out of your system but never let her know that you’re devastated. This gives her way too much power and only boosts her ego. Knowing that you have fallen apart makes you weak and her strong. It’s like you’re giving your power away, man!

Did she fall in love with a guy that cried all the time? Was she attracted to the fact that you caved in and promised her anything and everything to be with her? Or was it that you were a fun person to be around; that you were funny and you made her laugh and that you had a neat personality? Was it that she saw that sparkle in your eyes when you saw her or was it because you were crying when she saw you? Do you want her pity or do you want her back?

Look, you may have already done some major damage to your chances of getting her back but all hope is not lost� not by a long shot. Guys have come back from much worse than this and you do have the ability to get her back. Step one though is admitting that you’re a kitty cat (Meow!)� only kidding! Step one is to pull yourself together and decide that you have the ability to get her back and that you will get her back. If this truly is your goal then start thinking along those lines and know in your heart that you can get her back. Yesterday is gone and you can move forward from this point and win her back. There is no doubt in my mind. A man with a goal and a purpose can not be denied� but it is going to take some time. But remember, it is time to pull yourself together and get back to being the man that she fell in love with. Be the man that she loved and respected and admired. Be her best friend again and there is no doubt that you can pull this off�.kitty cat!